Mothering From The Heart - July 31, 2013

I am in my early 50s and starting to look older ( which, is normal,I know), but I grew up with a mother who put a tremendous emphasis on outward appearance. I am particularly concerned that my eyes make me look old, and I have an appointment next week with a plastic surgeon who did eyelid surgery on my Mom - and did a great job.  She was very pleased.
Anyway, while I was excited about this procedure, my husband is NOT. He said he thinks I look perfect the way I am, and am concerned that it might not go right, and I would regret it.
I feel torn.  I want to accept the way and look - and actually be pleased, and some days I can do this.  Other days, when I am feeling down, I tend to focus on my physical flaws and how I need to fix them. Yet,  I know God does not want me preoccupied with my physical appearance.
I feel that I should probably submit to my husband's leadership in this situation.  I think that if I decide to go ahead and have the surgery anyway - against my husband's wishes, it could harm our marriage.  And I do believe my husband has good judgment.. What do you think I should do? Perhaps I need to ask God to help me accept myself.  Audrey, I value your insight.  This is difficult for me.

I have many resources on biblical discipline for my children but am having a hard time getting my husband on board to insure consistency. Is the church planning a study on this topic? It's really becoming a thorn in our home. 

 I am really concerned and confused about the issue of divorce in that I have never been married but my fiance’ has.  Will our marriage not be right in the God's eyes because he was married before?  With this marriage we are both committed to know God.